Woman out of the psychological swamp
Does the husband have an affair?
Why do I always feel ignored?
Why do you always have trouble?
. so you lament that being a woman is difficult and being a woman is tiring.
But have you introspected yourself: How much worry is meaningful?
How much worry is self-binding?
Out of the psychological swamp that lost you, you will find the sea and the sky, and life is more exciting.
First, it is better to improve their women’s meticulousness, seriousness, and sensitivity, so that they have an advantage over men in some aspects.
But so-called, women also have shortcomings, suspiciousness, paranoia, perfectionism, and emotional weakness.
In our psychological consultation clinic, we often encounter such an example: Rong’er accidentally found a diary of her husband’s past when moving, and learned some things between her husband and her lover. Since then, she has questioned her husband every dayIt ‘s true, and she has read the diary many times, remembering it in her heart, wherever she goes, she will remember whether her husband has been here with others, what he did, and so on.
This made her very distressed, she couldn’t sleep all night and all night, and didn’t work at all during the day.
Their children are all in elementary school. Ronger doesn’t want to divorce her husband, but she can’t forgive her husband, and tortures each other in this way, which makes her husband extremely distressed.
Although many women do not have such extreme behaviors as described above, they are still easy to doubt the loyalty of their husbands or boyfriends and use a lot of gains for cranky thoughts.
They lack trust and confidence in each other.
I often ask them that time is limited in life. How much time do we take to really think about our lives, work and entertainment?
Is it worth our time to think about irrelevant people and things?
After hearing this, some people will suddenly realize that they should think more about their own growth. As they look at the husband like a thief, they torture themselves to the point of losing their hearts and their looks, they might as well pay more attention to improving their quality and improving themselves.
Seeing people is often inconceivable, grasping yourself is the most important.
Confident, self-loving women are attractive!
Second, one cannot dedicate one’s character without oneself to heredity, and half to the acquired environmental influence and education.
As women grow up, parents will unconsciously give them too much protection. It seems that girls should be more coquettish than boys, and men should help women.
As a result, women have more alternatives than men.
After getting married, many women’s main forces are put on their husbands and children. They feel that there is a husband fighting outside, and their wives and wives are honorable, so they do not want to be motivated, and they are gradually alienated from the outside world.
When the husband’s career develops and the child grows up, she becomes a superfluous person, unattractive to others, and feels inferior.
The motherhood of women’s skin makes them willing to dedicate themselves, but women don’t consider their growth, career and hobbies at all.
Even if the family is rich, women should have their own careers and space, because women’s self-confidence is distorted.
Qin Fei became a full-time housewife after she got married. Her main job every day is to do housework and go shopping.
In the workplace of her husband, she has no time to take care of her loneliness, and her friends have to go to work again. No one accompanies her for recreation.
Later, with the help of a psychiatrist, Qin Fei became a SOHO woman. She was both casual and busy all day. She no longer had time to pay attention to her husband’s phone and face. As a result, her husband often paid attention to her whereabouts and appreciated her.new life.
Someone likens women to a book or a school, but if there is no fresh content, what is more attractive?
Therefore, women should care more about their career development and personality cultivation while enriching their lives.
Third, women’s happiness surgery Women’s emotions are rich and prone to sentimentality, so who should put women’s happiness?
Many women complain that her husband does not love her enough, and she is not romantic, considerate, or understanding, and she is upset.
Xiaoyu’s husband used to care for her. She often gave her small gifts, cards, and love letters, which made her very happy.
But after a few years of marriage, her husband’s work became more and more busy, and she became more and more indifferent to her, even forgetting their wedding anniversary and her birthday, which made her particularly sad.
Is the husband not loving himself?
Or something else?
She began to wonder if there was everlasting love. In fact, the relationship between husband and wife is not static but develops and changes, from romance to reality, from flowers to fruits.
In the past, my husband used to send cards, but now I have to consider earning a house and a car for my family.
Within 3 years of marriage, the two were in a period of infatuation, and then entered an attachment period.
Women should consider creating happiness themselves rather than waiting for others to give them happiness and not become emotional beggars.
Women can have their own social contacts, go shopping, fitness, travel, learn new skills by themselves, make themselves live fuller, can be happier, and affect the husband is also happy.
Female happy black self.
Fourth, don’t isolate your husband with love. No matter how you go out, women are more concerned about and more subject to family than men.
The relationship between women and in-laws is more difficult than the relationship between husband and father-in-law, because some women are sensitive and focus too much on their feelings.
In fact, if women are more concerned about the feelings of others, many relationships can be handled well.
Many people unconsciously only think of their own needs and hobbies, and are unwilling to consider the needs of others, especially those who have grown up in the care of everyone more easily.
Lin Ling has been married for more than a year, and the relationship between husband and wife has always been very good, and the husband is generally recognized as a good husband.
Recently, her mother-in-law moved to live with them from abroad. The husband is a very filial son. Because he is very busy at work, he hopes his wife can take care of his mother.
Ke Linling has been living with her husband’s pets. Now there is another person in the family who shares her husband’s love. Suddenly, she feels that her psychology is very unbalanced, and she naturally behaves strangely to the old lady.
All she thought about was how she was ignored by her husband, and she had to fight for it without thinking about her husband’s needs and feelings.
In fact, as long as she treats his mother well, he will definitely return more love.
Some witty wives are particularly good to their husband’s ex-wife’s children. As a result, they do more with less and win double love from their husbands and children.
But some people can’t think of it.
The idiom saying “love house and black” should be very suitable for the life of husband and wife.
Fighting for favor with her husband’s closest family will likely overthrow the balance he loves.
Fifth, don’t make yourself a broken mouth woman. The attitude towards love will change after marriage, and you will unconsciously show that you want to unify your husband instead of respecting your husband.
Newlyweds can’t avoid a lot of quarrels while they are sweet, and the focus is on “who has the last say”.
The Xiaoguan couple had just been married for more than six months, but they were so noisy about some trivial matters.
They are all highly educated intellectuals. They are usually polite, but they have another face when they fight at home. Why?
It turned out to be fighting for “leadership” in the family!
Husband used to be free and comfortable, and put things at random. He didn’t pay much attention to the small section, and Xiaoguan couldn’t tolerate it. He must transform him.
As soon as the husband came back, Xiao Guan stared at him, and for a while he thought that his bowl had not been cleaned, and then that he thought he was throwing socks around, and he became more and more fond of it.
The husband felt that home was a place to relax. As a result, he became more nervous than in the unit, so he did not love to go home, and his wife repeated more and more, forming a vicious circle.
In fact, the wife did a lot of housework, but the credit was replaced. The husband was not only grateful but rather disgusted.
The smart choices are: 1. Do it without saying; 2. Do it together; 3. Leave him alone and let him do it.
In short, everything can not be too demanding perfection, you must open one eye and close one eye.
In this way, neither will feel tired.
6. Don’t turn motherhood into an autocracy in the family. Mothers have to take more responsibility for educating their children. However, many personality characteristics of women have affected the psychological development of children.
For example, the seriousness and carefulness of women, on the contrary, limit the children’s own sensory functions and organizational abilities. Children rely on their mothers for everything, and they lose care and carelessness; women’s hard work can’t help but replace everything for the children and make themWomen ‘s ability to take care of themselves and their ability to take care of themselves are extremely poor; women ‘s over-protection of children makes them afraid to face the outside society; women ‘s sensitivity and tension, and excessive attention to their children ‘s body and learning can easily make children nervous; womenThe uncle’s shame made children lose their self-confidence and their own values . This over-protection and over-concern mother love actually turned into an autocracy, which would seriously affect the child’s psychological development.
Women may be experts in all aspects, but to be a good mother, you must first become a child psychologist, because it is not enough to treat children with love, but also to have scientific knowledge and methods.
Some people say that women promote social progress by promoting men, and determine their future by nurturing children.
Therefore, if women can get out of their psychological misunderstanding, life will be more exciting and the world will be better.