Lovers’ complex is also a psychological disorder
The shy young girl who loves the beginning is in love with the handsome and handsome male teacher, the apathetic and sunny young boy is obsessed with the beautiful and gentle female teacher . This is not the plot in Qiong Yao’s novels, and even many people who have passed through the school days have experienced.
As a topic that everyone is interested in, the relationship between teachers and students often makes ripples in the peaceful campus.
Although it is not uncommon for similar examples of Lu Xun and Xu Guangping to have a positive relationship with teachers and students, more love between teachers and students is finally tasted.
Psychologists believe that, in a sense, the “love teacher complex” is also a psychological obstacle. For some young people who are not yet fully mature, professionals need to help them.
The student Yi empathizes with the teacher. The girl named Fei Fei, who is known as the “school flower”, is surrounded by boys who secretly send Qiubo, but she likes her own language teacher so much that she often takes a walk when she comes to a Chinese class.
This teacher is a talented man who graduated from the Chinese Department. He is a thin man with a melancholy expression. His belly is filled with works and stories of famous artists such as Hugo, Stenda, Balzac, Flaubert, Kawabata Yasunari, Hemingway, etc.He wrote good poems and read them with emotion. Fifi, who likes literature, and several other girls in the class were attracted to him. The girls even liked to ask him for advice alone, and even jealous of him.
Psychologists believe that one of the salient features of contemporary young people’s sexual psychological transformation is that they can easily transfer love to young heterosexual teachers.
Because the teacher is the model that young people first recognize and imitate, students’ feelings towards the teacher often change from respect and love to robes to love.
However, students who fall in love with the teacher are often panic-stricken. If they are not treated properly, they will go to extremes, leading to psychological disorders or illness.
The crush on the teacher led to depression and enthusiasm. Xiao Ke’s English performance of the freshman boy has always been downstream of the class. The gentle and beautiful English teacher opened a small stove every day to make up for him, so that Xiao Ke’s grades improved rapidly.
I have been in contact with the teacher alone for a long time. Xiao Ke unknowingly fell in love with his English teacher.
He likes the teacher’s mouth that rises when she smiles, and the long fragrance she emits.
Then one day, he suddenly heard the news that the teacher was about to marry his fiance. Xiao Ke suddenly felt like thunder, and his inner world became more confused and depressed.
There is no doubt that the young people who are confused in the “love complex” need guidance. The role models of teachers, education methods and the understanding of young people’s psychology are important factors to prevent and solve their psychological obstacles.
Professor Zhu Rongshen, director of the Department of Psychology of the Tenth Hospital of the City, pointed out that adolescent accidents are far more than these, but it can be said that these are important and more frequent confusions.
If parents, teachers, and adolescents themselves pay attention to learning basic psychological knowledge and carry out correct youth education, including sexual psychology and sexual moral education, it will likely reduce adolescent troubles greatly.
The lover originates from the narrow contact surface of the campus, which integrates the opinions of many experts. The author changes such an orientation: The reason why young students are easy to be “lovers” is that they have a certain relationship with the narrow contact surface on campus, in addition to being in a special physiological period.
For example, girls at the age of love are surrounded by a group of childish boys who are silly heads. Influenced by romance novels and film and television dramas, they have no exception imagined that their white horse prince is tall, handsome, and economically based.Mature men can live on campus and have less contact with people in the community, naturally they have not encountered them.
Therefore, the single male teacher in the school has become the target of the attention of many girls.
For young male teachers, shortly after graduating from college, just starting their own career, they were frequently discharged by young and beautiful female students. This is of course a face-saving thing.
The male teacher who has no thoughts and laughs will pass, not the male teacher who is very tempted or does not have a girlfriend. It may be very useful. After coming down three or five times, they come together.
Professor Zhu believes that at the stage of puberty sexual consciousness, it is normal for students to like their teachers, but if they are unable to extricate themselves, it will inevitably affect normal learning and life, and may even disrupt the normal teaching level of the school.
After all, most of the teachers have entered the love stage, with their own lovers, and others have married and have their own spouses.
Therefore, if students feel unable to extricate themselves in this regard, they should adjust their psychology as soon as possible.
Most experts who ca n’t stop “teacher-student love” believe that, like “young and young love”, “teacher-student love” will hardly have a good ending.
This is because the girl’s thoughts and emotions are still immature at this time, and she lacks understanding and discrimination of the teacher’s background, personality, and other aspects. Most of them are emotional impulse and blindness.
Maybe the romance is really warm.
But it lacks a solid foundation that makes it difficult to last.
In addition, dating in the school age is easy to spread and affect academics.
A promising young girl may be inadvertent to learn because she falls in love with her teacher and is unacceptable to those around her, and suffers emotional setbacks, which can make her study wasteful and even drop out of school.
If you encounter a teacher who already has a family, then playing a disgraceful “third party” role will be opposed by opposing families and schools, wrong public criticism, and resentment of the teacher’s wife, which will make her difficultBe a man in society.
Therefore, experts remind students that if you also admire and admire your teacher deep in your heart, please cherish it and not defile it with undivided desires and wrong actions.
Once the teacher-student relationship turns into teacher-student love or transgression, it may lose its beauty and purity.
What follows is endless embarrassment and annoyance.
Pupils need to adjust their psychology Prof. Du Yasong, director of the Youth Psychology Clinic Department of Shanghai Psychological Counseling Center, believes that boys and girls who fall in love with their teachers need to adjust their sexual psychology.
First of all, I should think that the teacher is excellent, but after all, he is a teacher, mainly two generations with himself; secondly, he should also understand that what he sees is only the teacher’s side after all, and he does not know everything about the teacher.
Experts believe that normal heterosexual communication between adolescent men and women plays a vital role in the development of sexual psychology.
If you maintain a friendship relationship with multiple students of the opposite sex, you can look at each other more objectively, and you can also understand what the true advantages of the opposite sex are through comparison.Such young men and women have a more peaceful mindset, a fuller heart, and a richer spiritual life.
Conversely, a person with an introverted personality, who has more or no friends at all, tends to be surrounded by emotions towards a particular object, and tends to go to extremes, and it is not easy to get out of the emotional vortex.
From this point of view, letting young students eliminate the harm of “love complex”, create more opportunities for them to interact with the opposite sex, encourage the development of friendship between male and female students, eliminate the mystery of the opposite sex, and it is really healthy for their sexual psychologyUseful and necessary.